How successfully you think you would be at moving forward while looking in the rearview mirror? If you’re being honest, your answer is most likely, not at all. No one would be.
It is like trying to build your desires for the future while still dwelling in and on your past. You’re trying to accomplish an impossible feature as what a Williamson family said. “we do not heal the past by dwelling there. We heal the past by living fully in the present.”
Those powerful words are very true and that simple we cannot change our past. No matter how much we think of, scratch or claw, or complain, there’s no changing it. All we can do best is to focus on what is on our present and rebuilt what is best for the future.
And of course, you can never build your future if your hand are full of baggage from the past. You need to let go of your past and free yourself and be able to construct your future. There are three major things that drag down people the most and we need to learn from those things to let go of our past so we can break through, what are those? Keep reading below.
1. Let go of wrongdoings
If you’ve been doing this for long enough, sadly, it tends to just be part of life. Doing wrong things often can transform us to someone who holds on to grudges if someone wronged you in return. The problem of holding grudges is that they serve as the heaviest baggage you carry around. It stays at the very front of your heart and mind. It breaks you down emotionally and mentally, then eventually affects your physical toll.
Holding grudges keep you stuck in your past and in a vicious cycle of resurrecting every mistake that was done to you. And you eventually chained there. In order to let go of grudges, you have to release and stop those wrongdoings from the past. When you start doing that, then you are setting yourself free.
Just what Lewis Smedes described it when he said, “to forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” You are in control of what you deserve and the life you want to create. So go ahead and unchain yourself from your past by letting go and removing the wrongdoings in your life that happened to you.
2. Let go of your limiting stories
I come from nothing, so I’m meant to be nothing. My parent’s relationship fell apart, so finding true love must be really hard. Only lucky people get rich.
What do these statements have in common? If you think that they are all crippling beliefs that people struggle with every single, then you are correct. One of the biggest reasons why we struggle to break through and create a better life we deserve is that we are being held back by limiting beliefs from our past and how we were brought up.
The saddest part about it that these beliefs become part of lives like terrible gifts that cannot be returned. Most of the stories we grow up believing about ourselves and life are ingrained into us before we reach adulthood. We are like a sponge soaking up everything we experience in this world.
The good news is as adults with the conscious ability to select what we hold on to, we can decide whether we want to hold on to those beliefs any longer or not. If you truly want to break through and create a great life yourself, you need to willingly snap the rope tying you to those limiting beliefs.
“Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.” – Oprah Winfrey
3. Let go of your victim mindset
The last thing that you need to let go of your past and part of your life already in order to have an abundant future is your victim mindset. Many people always believe and have been conditioned to believe that they are always the victim. That life is happening and that they can’t catch a break.
If someone has a victim mindset, they are putting away the opportunity to control the life they desire. They will say that they are not that strong enough to actually achieve the goals they desire as an outcome. If you didn’t have any say in this terrible life being created for you, why would you have any say in changing it and making it any better?
No one who has ever created anything great in their life did so with a victim mindset. Victims raised their hands up and give in when things go wrong and tough. That’s if they even get started in the first place. Those who are considered winners, on the other hand, take full responsibility for their lives and believe that they are in control of creating what they desire.
Just like your limiting beliefs, a victim mindset is already a part of us. We always learned from those closest to us at a very young age. But just like a spoiled gift, we can always throw it anytime if we want to. And it is necessary if you want to breakthrough in your life.
Steve Maraboli said, “Stop validating your victim mentality. Shake off your self-defeating drama and embrace your innate ability to recover and achieve.” If we can do this, we will be able to create the life we wanted.